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Lin Morency Buckland's avatar

What a wonderful story of love and discovery and appreciation (especially the Italian picnics!) We can all be this lucky when we meet and mingle and come together to make families and communities from our varying backgrounds.

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Karen Flanagan McCarthy's avatar

Loved this story, especially the honesty with which you describe taunting the 'others', becoming an 'other' yourself, then marrying an 'other'. And finally realizing that there is no 'other'. There is only us. Well done!

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Suzanne Handman's avatar

What a touching story. And a lesson to all of us privileged Canadians

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Suzanne Handman's avatar

What a touching story. And a lesson to all of us privileged Canadians

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Christine's avatar

What a beautiful and meaningful story.

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Michael Cochrane's avatar

Sarah, so many parts of your story have touched my heart. My Mom was from a Depression era Irish immigrant family in Northern Ontario. She moved to Toronto as a very young woman and married the son of Irish immigrants. And now, many years later, her grand daughter has married the grandson of Italian immigrants and fallen in love with his big generous family. Sometimes these shared Canadian experiences feel like someone gently struck a tuning fork which resonates within all of us.

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11Gengar11🇨🇦's avatar

A beautiful story of family - and what makes a country strong. The mingling of many with open hearts and minds.

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MEJ's avatar

Lovely 💕

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Paula Halpin's avatar

Thank you, Sarah, for this honest and beautifully written account of your love for a man and a family that are part of a culture different from your own. Your personal story is the story of Canada.

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Dionetta Doerfler's avatar

Beautiful! Thank you for sharing ❤️

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The Faithful Citizen's avatar

Thank you, Sarah, for this moving and beautifully written reflection on belonging and identity.

Reading your story reminded me of my own family's journey. My parents immigrated to Canada from Haiti under Pierre Trudeau in the early 1970s. We settled in predominantly Italian and Portuguese neighbourhoods, and though the early years were challenging (learning new customs, overcoming language barriers, and grappling with feelings of displacement) our communities slowly grew together.

As the first generation born here, I've been shaped by the resilience of my parents and the warmth and solidarity of our neighbours. The friendships formed back then have endured into our generation, proving that bonds can transcend culture when there is openness, kindness, and shared humanity.

Cross-cultural marriages like yours, and mine, are truly special. My wife comes from a French Acadian family, and it's been incredible to witness how beautifully our families have blended. One of the most touching things is the relationship between our fathers: mine, a retired physician from Haiti, and hers, a retired industrial worker with a high school diploma. You’d think they had been best friends since high school, but they only met a few days before our wedding. Their bond is a testament to how genuine connection defies background or class.

Like you, I believe we are truly blessed to live in a country where diversity can be a strength, if we are willing to let go of our biases and celebrate each other. Your story of love, loss, and ultimately, connection across cultures reflects so much of what makes Canada special. Thank you for reminding us all of the power of understanding, humility, and shared joy.

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Bryan Demchinsky's avatar

Our ethnicities have made Canada into a better place.

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Helen Hirsh Spence's avatar

Beautifully told, Sarah. Having known you for decades, I also know how profoundly you've embraced all things Italian.

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Kristin Shannon's avatar

Che belle famiglie, Sarah! Tutte i due. Che bel paese, il nostro Canada!🇨🇦 🇮🇹🍀

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Sarah Prospero's avatar

Grazie mille!

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Robert Snikkar's avatar

Bellissimo!

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Sylvie Lamoureux's avatar

What a beautiful story, Sarah. I love the juxtaposition of the two worlds. How rich all our lives would be if we could embrace each other's cultures and differences.

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Sarah Prospero's avatar

Thanks very much.... and yes, it has been so for me.

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